I’m sure you’re expecting to read a list to be grateful for every day that includes things like your friends, family and your health, but I’d like to put a different spin on things. Sure, we should totally be grateful for friends, family and our health, that we have a roof over our head and a job, but let’s dig a little deeper into things we maybe take for granted or don’t even really think about. Here are some things to be grateful for I would like to share with you.
LIFE IS NOT FAIR
This is one of life’s gifts that too many people do not appreciate. They only ever see the negative side of life being unfair, but what about the flip side? Of all the things to be grateful for, life being unfair is the top one. It means you can win big at a horse race on your first bet, when another guy has done it 20 years and never won big. It means that you can get promoted, even if you have not worked there that long, and it means you can find the perfect partner, even if you have only been single a couple of days. If life were perfectly fair we’d be less ambitious, have fewer goals and fewer opportunities to want to better ourselves.
NOT EVERYBODY IS BAD
If point number one was top of the things to be grateful for in life, this would be a close number 2. It is actually a philosophical piece from the great movie “ParaNorman.” Without spoiling the movie for those who haven’t seen it yet, the young boy explains, “Just because there are bad people in the world, it doesn’t mean there aren’t any good ones.” Such a simple message is often forgotten by most of us, but there truly are good people in the world; we just don’t hear about them on the news or rare not lucky enough to meet them.
LIFE’S LITTLE DIVERSIONS
We all have our own. Some people like a drink, others a smoke,and some like sex with strangers. Others prefer train spotting or inventing things to become the next Iron Man. Whatever your little diversion is, it is great to be able to indulge yourself when the opportunity arises.
THE TIMES WHEN IT DOES NOT GO BAD
Ever had one of those times where you wish you could turn back the clock ten seconds and avoid something? It may accidentally knocking a tin of paint onto the new carpet, or it may be plowing into the back of a police car at 30mph. Whatever the disaster, aren’t those times that you avoid them great? Those times when you look back and think, “Wow, I could have died,” or “Wow, the s**t could have really hit the fan that day.”
It is supposed to end, as that is the meaning of life. Sometimes it ends too soon, but the fact that we have life at all is amazing. The statistical chances of life existing at all is beyond human comprehension, so if you were to work out the statistical chances of your birth, then you would need several lifetimes in order to spell out the number.
It is sad to see what we humans have done to mother earth, and sad to see what we are still doing. But, it is great when Mother Nature takes a swipe and wins one back. Mother Nature brings down mountains and drain oceans. Even in Chernobyl, the biggest pollution site on the planet, the plants and animals have still returned. Sure, there are no giant radoactive lizards like the Godzilla movies promised us, but somehow, even on the most ravaged part of the earth, mother nature has sent in the troops.
This comes at the bottom of the list of the things to be grateful for, because freedom in itself is simply allowing us a range of choice. For example, you may choose to drive on the other side of the road, but you are not really free to make that choice without consequences. But, compared to most countries with people that think it is amazing that we can buy food past 7 pm at night, and others are thrilled that woman are allowed to drink in public.
Our world and our lives give us so many things to be grateful for and it’s not always in an obvious way. Has this given you some food for thought? What are you grateful for? Feel free to comment below and let’s share what we are grateful for our lives.
What’s with guys always needing to be with their “bros” or girls always going to the bathroom with their whole posse? Stop depending and get on the independent path. A perfect example of an independent “individual,” The Statue of Liberty— she stands alone, stands strong, stands independently. Life is too short to depend on others. Making decisions, as in what is worth giving up, in order to achieve something else, will optimize independence. whether it be making the smallest choice, such as choosing between a Hershey bar or a fruit salad, or the biggest decision, such as moving to a new country or switching career paths, will get you on that independent path.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
It’s easy to doubt yourself and give up on yourself. When in reality, when it really comes down to it, you only have yourself to fall back on, so stop the pitying and start believing! Believe that you have what it takes to make that deadline or attain that goal. It’s important to believe in you and be secure with yourself. That empowering feeling will give you that boost to get on the independent path.
START RELYING ON YOU
Stop depending on others, and start turning to yourself. People rely way, way too much on others. It’s unnecessary and unappealing. Take charge of your happiness. This will bring fulfillment. It will take the burden off of the person you are depending on and you will have unlimited possibilities. Making decisions on your own is key. Take advantage of that brain of yours and make decisions that are in your best interest. You have to satisfy yourself and make yourself happy before you can be there for others.
HAVING ALONE TIME
You don’t really need a friend or a companion to go to the movies or take a walk. do you? Start doing activities without another individual. There’s a therapeutic aura about being alone while being active. It can clear your mind, help you make a near future decision, or simply just give you breath of fresh air. Stop with the stress of always having to have plans or have others surrounding you. Go to that movie alone, take a walk in the park by yourself, learn to love being in the company of yourself.
INSTEAD OF STRESSING, APPRECIATE
Appreciate the relationships you have, the job you acquire, the classes you are taking. There is no reason to base your life on the should of, would of, could of. Relationships come and go as well as jobs, friends, and schooling so it’s not worth the stress. Change the wrapped perception of relationships and just enjoy. Some things come and go as fast as a lightning bolt so take advantage and appreciate the time spent.
STOP WITH THE FEAR
There’s nothing to be afraid of. Independence is an amazing quality. To be able to walk into a room alone, to be able to stand your ground, and to be able to rely just on you is an accomplishment. When I look at individuals who are older than myself who cannot make their own decisions or are afraid to, it’s unattractive. Make the most effective and efficient decisions.
LIVE IN THE NOW, NOT THE FUTURE
Who knows what’s going to happen tomorrow, next month, or in the next 5 years? Live for today. Some say “Take it day by day.” My motto is, “Take it second by second.” Stop living for what may or may not happen and just make things happen. Now I’m not saying to stop planning for that important meeting or important exam you have tomorrow, but in other words, when planning and preparing for that meeting or exam, stop thinking about the meeting after that and the meeting after that, etc. Stay in the present, take a deep breath, and just relax.
LOOK TO YOURSELF FOR ADVICE
Take responsibility and control of the life you want. Afraid of failure? Well you can’t fail unless you test out the waters. Even though every one wants a second opinion just to clarify a decision, take advice from within and do what you want. Take that mistake or two and embrace and learn from it. We’re all going to make mistakes, but it;s the success that makes us stronger and more independent.
I know, it;s easier said than done to be fully independent. Of course going for dinner and spending time with family, friends, and significant others, and co-workers are a great way of letting off steam, but independence is beyond just letting off steam. It’s about confidence, self-reliance, and appreciation of what you have to offer yourself. Give yourself the freedom you deserve. It’s time to give yourself the breath of fresh air you need. Tomorrow when you wake up, what changes and decisions are you going to make to put yourself on that independent path?
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